A woman shared her experience of an unexpected fallout with her best friend after revealing her pregnancy, despite being sensitive to her friend’s struggles with infertility. The 33-year-old woman, who had been supportive of her friend (31) throughout her years-long battle with infertility, found herself caught in a delicate situation when she finally shared her pregnancy news.
Over the past year and a half, she had been there for her friend through failed inseminations, multiple rounds of IVF, and the emotional toll of her PCOS diagnosis. The two friends had agreed that, should she become pregnant, she would let her friend know, but only if she wanted to hear the news. Earlier in the year, her friend had asked her not to bring up pregnancy topics, especially after her second round of IVF failed, and the woman respected her request, keeping her pregnancy to herself for a time.
However, after her friend received some hopeful news from doctors, the woman decided it was time to share her own news, as she was already 10 weeks pregnant and planned to make a public announcement soon. When they finally met, she told her friend, expecting support, but instead received a cold and terse reaction. “Oh, congratulations then,” was followed by the comment, “That was fast, huh?”
While she understood her friend’s difficult circumstances, the woman was still hurt by the response, and gave her friend space for a month. But when she reached out again, her friend sent a long voice message expressing how deeply offended she was by the pregnancy announcement. She claimed the topic was off-limits and that she didn’t want to communicate with her anymore, leaving the woman shocked and unsure of where their friendship stood.
Although the woman is concerned for her friend, she’s also hurt by the response and unsure if the relationship can be salvaged. She now questions whether it’s possible to move forward or if the damage is irreversible. The online consensus from Reddit users largely sides with the woman, with many feeling that she did nothing wrong and that her friend’s reaction was a result of her own unresolved feelings around infertility.
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